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Over the course of a week, attendees participate in a series of sessions and workshops where they begin to identify harmful patterns imprinted before the rational mind was even formed age 7 —and how those patterns might be limiting their lives now. Intrigued, we asked goop staffer Kevin if he wanted to go. Abandoned by his father in childhood, Kevin has always refused to acknowledge that this even bothered him, brushing off hurt with humor, and limiting his own exposure to pain and connection by keeping anyone with the potential to cause it at a safe distance.
When he emerged, Kevin was a different person—lighter, happier, and less inclined to reach for his shielding patterns. How I want to live, and how I want to be, is how I have to act—I just need to be my true self. And are all patterns bad, or are some good? Humans are born absolutely helpless and dependent on their parents and caregivers for survival. In childhood, to know that we will be taken care of, we bond with them emotionally. In order to feel love and belonging we indiscriminately absorb their ways of feeling and behaving and make them our own.
Out of our need for love, we emotionally bonded with them in whatever experiences they offered up. No matter how much our parents may have loved us, they were by no means perfect; they had their own patterned ways of being that they learned in childhood. And, unfortunately, we bonded with them in their counter-productive negativity as well as what was life-affirming.
We often find later in life that these parental patterns i. For instance, in one family, smiling and being nice may be the acceptable way of being. We abandon our true self and manifest behavior that, while it may get us approval, leaves us feeling hollow and powerless. People come to the Hoffman Process because they have patterns they need to change. If they become needy in relationships they may have seen that same dynamic between their parents, etc. In the Hoffman Process, we look at the behaviors and ways of being that cause suffering. For example, if being needy is a problem, the Process helps the person become curious about that.
In the Hoffman Process, we are looking for our patterns that cause suffering and negative consequences to ourselves and others, and that have been there throughout our lives. The goal is not to get rid of all our patterns, but to diminish their power over us and to increase our choice and will to act.
Being nice, and being organized are great skills, but not if those are our only options, and not if we are doing them compulsively and at the expense of our relationships and vitality. To be whole, we need to experience connection to all aspects of ourselves—emotions, intellect, body, and spiritual essence. How can you mindfully parent and protect your own children from inheriting some of these harmful patterns?
Obviously, mature and loving adults make more mature and loving parents. The best way to raise loving, productive, authentic, spontaneous children to adulthood is to model these ways of being. Our children do what we do, not what we say. Are we modeling healthy boundaries, strength, and compassion, or are we modeling denial, stress, addiction, secrecy, and self-neglect? The good news is that we can change our footsteps.
This can be a great motivation to do this kind of work. For those who are unable to go to the Hoffman Institute and do the work there, are there practices that you can do yourself to help exercise these patterns of harmful thinking?
Mindfulness, awareness, gratitude, meditation, prayer, and service are all practices that can reduce the effects of pattern-driven behavior. There is a variety of ways to learn these things. One advantage to doing deep emotional work in a setting such as the Hoffman Process is that it clears the path to taking on such life-affirming practices. How do I feel about myself, in my relationships or in my career?
Is it sadness, worry, guilt, or anger? How will I feel and be in that vision? In the Hoffman Process, we take people through a four-step experience with each pattern: awareness, expression, forgiveness, and new behavior. Awareness of where you are now and where you want to be in the future is the first step to transforming a patterned way of being.
Are there examples of positive pattern, i. We hope to teach people that what they are modeling deeply impacts their kids. So, what do you want to model? What sort of changes do people who come to Hoffman experience? Is it subtle or transformational? Published university research on the Hoffman Process shows lasting decreases in depression, anxiety, and hostility coupled with lasting increases in emotional intelligence, forgiveness, spirituality, and compassion.
They have found healing and forgiveness around the hurts and anger of the past, and they have more freedom and courage to act from love. They shift from being run by fears and patterns to being more present and able to make their unique contribution to the world. They have a newfound sense of wholeness. Certainly, there are people who come to Hoffman who are already in the midst of a major life transition—a career change, divorce, marriage, or health challenge. Their intention is often to discover what they really want. While that often happens, we always recommend that people not make major changes for at least days after the Process.
We support people making changes that are healthy and grounded, rather than impulsive and reactive. Not all the transformational changes people experience from the Process are immediately obvious, many are subtle. This comes from being more at peace with ourselves and connected more deeply to our own authenticity. A Humans are born absolutely helpless and dependent on their parents and caregivers for survival. Q How can you mindfully parent and protect your own children from inheriting some of these harmful patterns? A Obviously, mature and loving adults make more mature and loving parents.
Q For those who are unable to go to the Hoffman Institute and do the work there, are there practices that you can do yourself to help exercise these patterns of harmful thinking? A Mindfulness, awareness, gratitude, meditation, prayer, and service are all practices that can reduce the effects of pattern-driven behavior. Q Are there examples of positive pattern, i. Q What sort of changes do people who come to Hoffman experience? A Published university research on the Hoffman Process shows lasting decreases in depression, anxiety, and hostility coupled with lasting increases in emotional intelligence, forgiveness, spirituality, and compassion.Breaking family patterns
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